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Loving Beyond Glass Ink

Updated: Aug 11, 2019

"Escaping the escape"

In this article, we discuss breakthroughs beyond love.

Loving Beyond Glass Ceilings

Many of us experience the effects of a glass ceiling. A concept that says there's an invisible ceiling between an employee and how high they can climb up the corporate ladder. Many women, in particular, feels these glass ceilings more than men and with just cause. Dr. Voyles is a professor at SIU-E who reports that in 2007, women made up 46 percent of the labor force but only held 3–5 percent of top executive positions. She defines the "glass ceiling" effect as when qualified individuals are prevented from truly achieving all they can because of discrimination. An analysis of various situational vulnerabilities reveals one challenge facing our society: patronize organizations with glass ink or patronize healing agents with cool cushions.

New research from the University of Chicago Booth School of Business finds while there is plenty of evidence that sexism has prevented many talented women from achieving their full potential at work, there are factors beyond gender discrimination in the workplace that are obstacles for women. An analysis of situational vulnerability in the workplace reveals that many talented people are not on the table of consideration when it comes to work promotions and the economy suffers for it. The vulnerability of these situations can even lead to post glass ceiling trauma (PGCT) symptoms. PGCT symptoms are hypothetically like soldiers who experience post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Dr. Voyles (2019) defines process loss as any element of a group situation that detracts from the group's performance. In other words, an element like inequality that prevents acceptance into a group is a process loss. Other elements might be talking too much in class, parking outside of the lines in a parking lot, and texting while driving. A process loss is a wrinkle in the potential of production. Losses are due to a faulty process. A process loss occurs when the best talent for a promotion to the next level at an organization is not even considered because of a glass ceiling within that organization. Whereas actual production is the potential of productivity by including everyone equally who is qualified to be in the discussion of promotion.

An analysis of the situational vulnerability in one's career is concerning because it reveals a glaring truth - everyone deserves to feel safe and secure in their line of work. Yet, not all women have that safety and instead, most have insecurity.

A movie entitled Erin Brockovich shattered the glass ceiling and her PGCT syndromes. In the movie Erin Brockovich, Julia Roberts plays the leading lady. A character who worked in a law firm and was the mother of three who discovers people are being poisoned by their water supply by a powerful company. The fact that this is a true story is, in a way, bitter sweat. Erin Brockovich faced two glass ceilings. One invisible barrier in her career at work in the law firm and another in negotiations with opposing counsel. But in the end, she alone tied together to leg-work, case law and negotiation tactics to win the case for her clients. According to Palmieri (2016), it's proof that people who are situational vulnerable can indeed love past these barriers and save other people's lives.

Loving Beyond Glass Walls

Many of us have experienced the effects of a glass wall in our community. A concept that says there's an invisible line between a citizen and how far they can go in their travels. Many people feel these glass walls and with just cause. When I was younger and growing up on the not so rich side of town, I could feel this glass wall between my neighborhood and the nicer neighborhoods. It felt odd to cross the tracks and walk down the sidewalks of a better neighborhood. It felt stressful as a child to try and think that I could kick-it with the groups of other kids who were better off. And it was paralytic to think about expressing that there was usually no phone at my house, no running water, not much money, and not much food. An assessment of a personal glass wall reveals that this stress is real. To this day it's doesn't feel comfortable talking about it or going to the nicer places in society.

In the hilarious movie Trading Places, Eddie Murphy plays a funny homeless man who switches places with a well-to-do finance guy played by Dan Aykroyd. As the story begins, the Duke brothers (played by Mr. Bellamy and Mr. Ameche) make a wager. What would happen if a rich person like Winthorpe switched places with the lowliest person on the streets of Philadelphia?

With a few slick moves, Winthorpe finds himself in jail and Billy Ray (played by Eddie Murphy) finds himself in the mansion, which belonged to the Duke brothers after all. Both have crossed this glass line. At first, Billy Ray isn't used to the place and "steals" things. He invites some friends over for a party. But it doesn't take long for Billy Ray to scream at his friends: ''Hey, hey, hey - have you people ever heard of coasters?'' Meanwhile, the newly homeless Winthorpe has found his way to a pawnshop and tries to peddle what he claims is "The sports watch of the '80's!''

Truth be told, everyone deserves to feel safe and secure in their communities. An analysis of the situational vulnerability as far as one's place in society reveals that there are differences that people feel. Whether one is perceived as being on "the right side of the tracks" or is perceived as being on "the wrong side of the tracks," it's obvious that both sides feel the effects.

Police in many communities are aware of a glass wall. They annually host what's called the "National Night Out." Cook (2018) reports for the Herald & Review in Decatur, Illinois and says that the National Night Out brings police and community together for an old-fashioned good time - sack races and all. Many citizens feel the cushion of relief. They know what this brings to their community. Even some of the most hardened people who have been adversely affected by extreme situational vulnerabilities have expressed the desire to build more safety cushions like this event.

In psychology, we call these steps to overcoming obstacles and developing cushions Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). These heroes are trying to place more cushions in more vulnerability zones of glass walls. Proof that people who are situationally vulnerable through no fault of their own can indeed move past those barriers and save other people's lives.

Loving Beyond & Glass Making

Groups develop policy. Dr. Voyles (2019) teaches students in Industrial Organizational (I-O) Psychology that there are five steps to effective group decision making but there are also process losses with ineffective group decision making. Effective group decision making can be thought of as "loving beyond." Ineffective group decision making can be thought of as making glass. We'll first look at effective group decision making with a focus on "escaping the escape" from the process losses of ineffective group decision making. In other words, we'll analyze the process losses leading to unfortunate barriers with a focus on loving past them.

The five steps to effective group decision making are:

1. Diagnose the problem

2. Generate Solutions

3. Evaluate Solutions

4. Choose a Solution

5. Develop an Action Plan to Implement the Solution

When diagnosing a problem, a group can either formally come together in agreement that an obstacle exists, or it can be left undiagnosed and those who are affected by the problem can informally breakthrough and solve it themselves. Which also raises awareness for others like them to see and mimic. Situational vulnerability like pay disputes between union workers and corporations can either be formally diagnosed and negotiated, or those affected by the problem can informally go on strike and bring awareness themselves.

Generating solutions is the next step to effective group decision making. This involves expressing the process problem and goals while also trying to identify solutions. Brainstorming is important during this stage. Effective brainstorming occurs when members share ideas in real-time, are not apprehensive, and are not motivated by how "good" they look to others. On the other hand, brainstorming is hindered when members are delayed from sharing their ideas, members are apprehensive about voicing their ideas, and members are motivated by how "good" they look to others. The later being process losses.

Critically evaluating each solution is the third step to effective group decision making. Many evaluations of solutions look at what the goals and needs are. For example, the goal of the situational switch in the movie Trading Places was to settle a debate on whether success is the result of nature or nurture. And the need on the movie Erin Brokovich was financial compensation so that people who were put made ill could receive the medical treatment they needed. In this analysis of various situational vulnerabilities, security is a typical goal and safety is a common need.

Choosing one solution is the fourth step. Common approaches to choosing one of several solutions include individual inputs, majority rules, or group consensus. For example, if our focus is on "escaping the escape" of a process loss, or helping other people past their respective glass, then each barrier is unique. Erin Brockovich had different barriers than Billy Ray and Winthorpe. But each barrier can also have ripple effects. Erin Brockovich, for example, went to bat for each individual who was sick and who couldn't help themselves. But that led to a group of situationally vulnerable people able to get past their respective barriers. Billy Ray and Winthorpe, for example, eventually teamed up after learning the truth of the wager and got past their financial barriers investing in the commodities market.

Phase number five is developing a plan of action. A plan of action includes detailed action phases and methods for monitoring or evaluating progress. In a new "National Night Out" venue, for example, an effective group decision could be to implemented an event in the community and then the plan of action might include distributing connection cards to the people who patronized the event asking each if they could suggest other ways to cushion other feelings of glass divisions. These connection cards could then be shared with other community organizations who are already aimed at bridging specific gaps and facilitating inclusion. Providing first-hand evidence that people who are situational vulnerable can multiply loving beyond barriers and saving people's lives. At the Clean Law social enterprise, our thing is the child safety file system. Cushioning the situational vulnerability children feel through the glass ink of divorce and separation. Helping them past unique barriers with effective group decision making and avoiding ineffective group decision making. A real need in all of our communities. Filling a need where children will feel the difference. Clean Law allows people to use their safety file system free for personal use. Clean Law also licenses others to practice professionally use the system to add value to their trade or organization.

Loving Beyond Glass Ink

Every child deserves to see their parents growing up. There's no one person different from another who doesn't need that basic human necessity. Child safety files fill that basic human necessity.

Children like those of the inventor of child safety files are blocked from their parents for sometimes decades on end. Which is perfectly legal in old "adult fighting file" system. That's the principle intent. For example, when calls aim to connect, calls can be freely blocked or rerouted. When it's the Cards versus the Cubs, players probably prank each other all the time. When mail is aimed to connect, mail can be freely manipulated. When a Cubs fan describes a Cards player, it's probably not right. And trying to show one of these experiences in classical family law court through its "adult fighting files" is a lot like feeling a glass hammer just for trying to dust off the plate.

Many children themselves experience these intellectual glass hammers from adult fighting files. They can feel where the ceilings are and where the glass lines are. They can feel the glass ink of trying to modify those lines like glass walls of exclusion at best, and a glass hammer of blaming oneself at worse.

Unauthentic "family" law (divorce) is unfortunately gear to pour out glass hammers on any disagreements. Glass mallets like expensive retainer fees, delays, glitchy mechanisms, psychological warfare, and gaming the system. Those ripple out into every aspect of life and society. Teachers report the paralytics of students in class who's parents are divorced. Employers report the process losses of parents at work who are experiencing classical family law contract disputes. Glass hammers like a parent not being able to receive a day in court for a simple question if they're poor and have no right to counsel. From forty years of personal experiences, post glass hammer trauma (PGHT) symptoms are real. PGHT symptoms are like women who experience PGCT symptoms and soldiers who experience PTSD. Glass hammers like not being allowed to see your child's records at school unless you're the perceived right gender. Recurring pains of not even fitting in places where group decisions about your family are made

When puppy dogs are placed in a vulnerable situation, they can feel it. They feel being disconnected from their family. A recent roommate of mine had a dog named Ziggy. Every day that my roommate left for work, the poor dog would whine, cry, act anxious, and sometimes even pull the pillows off the couch. He didn't know what to do. Animals feel the glass barriers of situational vulnerabilities too. Of being absent of an owner they are dependent upon. An analysis of situational vulnerabilities reveal that children who are involved by proxy with divorce and adult fighting files may feel many barriers, and even PGHT symptoms which spill out of these adult fighting files.

Everyone deserves to feel safe in their file. And every child deserves cushioning and healing measures when it comes to glass barriers. Those unique attributes in life that gets them specifically past obstacles. How much better would their futures be is they skirted these pains?

Staying safe and connected with family members are basic human needs. Even during a divorce and separation of any kind. Sadly, good people have to start thinking about policy making asylum. But healing is a naturally occurring thing that no one but the owner of that healing has rights to. And sometimes they need has much support placing a band-aid over those wounds as the divisive policy makers have pulling it apart.

Cushioning is a professional thing that groups can do together. Barriers left in place and untreated prevent healing. And opposing parties reinforce any barriers regardless of children. Loving beyond the glass ink files of divorce and other separating cases offers next-generation connections, safety and security.

Loving Beyond Glass Disabilities

Everyone deserves to feel safe in their vulnerability. In a recent Today Show interview, co-anchors Sheinelle Jones and Dylan Dreyer introduced a deafblind lady named Haben Girma who made Harvard Law School history. Haben is Harvard Law School’s first ever deafblind graduate. She has dedicated her life to fighting for the rights of people with disabilities and situational vulnerabilities. That means, according to Dylan, equal opportunity, equal access, and an equal chance to succeed.

Dylan goes on to report that over the years Haben had to learn to be her own advocate. Haben says that she wants to experience everything that life has to offer. But that her parents didn't always know the solutions to her obstacles. Teachers didn't always know the solutions of how to connect her with the experiences that all of the other children were experiencing. But when she can't see or hear something, then she wants to touch it and think about it. She wants to experience it in some real way.

Getting to experience things, family, people, and the community in one way or another seems to be an inherent trait that we all share. A desire that often has more barriers the more vulnerable we are. Haben has always been curious about the world. Like most of us, she loves traveling, experiencing new food, and meeting new people. But some situations have no respect for the most vulnerable and often leaves them out.

Glass sight and sound barriers were Haben's major problems when Haben was in school. She knew that she could read braille. So when new reading obstacles presented themselves, she would ask for those materials to presented in braille. And her inspiring motivation led her to become valedictorian of her high school class.

She went on to attend college with honors. And in 2013 becoming the first deafblind graduate from Harvard Law School. She discovered a solution to her obstacles in the form of a keyboard that communicated words into braille. What's known as a BrailleNote system. When other people would speak or type what they were saying into the specialized keyboard, then she could feel what they were saying on her fingertips in braille. And when she needed to write something, then she could type in braille and it was converted into words on a computer. It almost seems like a necessity that people with vulnerabilities be connected to others intellectually. Even if their forms of communications differ. One might argue that it's vital people with vulnerabilities connect to others intellectually somehow. Especially if the forms of communications differ. One might argue that it's vital and a life lost for people with glass disabilities to connect with others.

Dylan explained that growing up Haben's parent were often overprotective and then asked Haben why she worked so hard to become independent. And Haben responded that when she first left home after high school and went to college, she could not read the menu in the school cafeteria. Every time that she went to the cafeteria, she could never read the menu to see what food was being served. And for the longest time, she said, she just put up with it. She would tell herself that there are a lot of struggles in life for people with disabilities. And that she would have to just deal with it, stop complaining, and just be grateful. She was vegetarian, which made matters worse, and would just have to guess and pick something up and hope that it wasn't a disappointment. This went on for months, she says.

But, she told herself, "I feel like I deserve to be here." And that if she doesn't advocate about barriers, then those barriers will always be there. And then the figurative mic dropped.

These are very impactful barriers to relatively simple connection problems halting progress, stopping growth, preventing life, and limiting the pursuit of happiness. Folding up a wrinkle in time and causing isolating effects. Loving beyond these barriers is not only a human need, but it's also a necessity. We know that necessity is said to be the mother of invention. But innovation has to be a strong co-parent. Loving beyond glass disabilities lends credibility to advocating for progress, growth, life, and opening up the doors of happiness. Creating social impacts that create waves of lasting ripple effects.

Child safety files are like the BrailleNote system that Haben used to connect her disconnected worlds. Child safety files may not be as big and as bold as adult competitions like "Cardinals versus Cubs," but children will feel the connections. Safety files are like a cushion for all of those who cannot yet explain how desperately they need to "escape the escape." For those who can't even know to love beyond problems and into solutions. They may not be for everyone. Some people family well or co-parent well. Many children have great parents who work together seamlessly to do what's right by their children. Just like there were great teachers for Haben to get her through. There are inspirations and very healthy models to follow for process gain, or, authentic family law.

Designed to Heal / Licensed to Liberate

Everyone deserves to feel safe and secure in their own specific world. Everyone deserves to feel safe and secure in their own specific career, their own specific communities, their own specific disability, and in their own specific file. Most of us have at one point or another in our lives felt the hits or self-blaming defects of glass ceilings, glass walls, and other glass barriers. But we can each now analyze various situational vulnerabilities to reveal at least one specific challenge facing society: patronize organizations with glass barriers or patronize child safety file agents with cushions. In other words, support glass or love beyond?

"When contracts dispute, safety files cushion us through."

At Clean Law, many people who were involved with classical adult fighting files report post glass hammer trauma (PGHT) symptoms themselves. But these heroes still practice child safety files for their children anyway. Child safety files cushion them through. Sometimes it's aunts and uncles who practice safety files. Sometimes its students, family or friends. Child safety files are designed to be a safer way to travel along through life. A way the reduce the feelings children endure when not traveling along through life from all different directions. Documenting the invisible barriers that children get past is the work at hand. When fighting files get hard, safety files pamper. When adults get too punitive, safety files get benevolent. Empowering children and the most vulnerable in any situation with unique abilities to conquer such fetes.

Tomorrow, we may see communities full of the most resilient people that this world has ever seen. We may see child safety files showing us a new perspective like a healing tool. We can visualize a system holding families up. A system keeping people in the loop. A system, even healthfully letting families grow themselves together. And what child with separated parents doesn't want that?

Safety Up with child safety files can be the new rule for next-generation safety. Next-generation safety in family, society and policy. And who wouldn't want that?

Clean Law is green law. A prophetical new wine and new wine skin. The life-process, authentic, cushioning, performance family law and filing system.

Policy that pays!


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