Updated: Jun 16
How independent parents in Illinois and Missouri are feeling about driving up representation rates while filling in those Missing Life Units (MLU)
MISSOURICASE.NET - A private parents group known as CLU (Clean Law Union) selected a network of Missouri family court cases to help fill the lack of representation with social justice efforts.
About 5,500 independent parents have filed a dissolution of marriage case with children involved in the state of Missouri alone during the first quarter of 2021. That's roughly 22,000 people per year. 17,700 of those (80%) are either unrepresented or underrepresented throughout complex paywalls, digital systems of efilings, physicals systems of organized professionals, virtual hearings, third party software, computer mandates, internet mandates, third party software support in foreign languages, and Supreme Court rules, it's no wonder their so much pain and suffering.
Navigating other complex multi-systems like signing up for college, navigating financial aid, navigating virtual classrooms, and eventually receiving a degree all favors those who are in the known. Those who've done it before or get paid to help. Much like those in the family law industry. Those who can afford fitting representation: either by means of an expensive college degree or retainer fee, have a better shot of success. Yet, children and young families in divorce court battles and similar deployments to war don't need expensive chest-beating, they just need professional love-keeping.
The difference between people earning a college degree and people earning successful legal cases is that 100% who try could earn a college degree, but only 50% of those who try can "win" what they're asking for in family court decisions. Is it any wonder people drop out?
But, what in the world could keep them in the game, you might ask.
Members of Life Winks® and independent parents everywhere are helping bridge the lack of representation gap in several ways. One way is by reporting on the state of the unrepresented, the other is by a comprehensive new network of services - including virtual, individual, and group support.
Here are some interesting facts about what else is going on in grave "family" law practices - The state of unrepresented families and categories of unrepresented and underrepresented family members:
1. Court percentages involving children. In Missouri dissolution of marriage cases involving children, it's roughly 80%. Dissolution of marriage cases without children involved: 20%.
2. Dissolution of marriage cases where one family member is represented, while the other party not represented (numerically +1 v -1, or "plus one versus minus one"):
People who unfortunately find themselves in category 2, whether willingly or against their will, experience a standing judicial difference of 2. Two times x'd. Nothing most people express concern about. Even if they do, those concerns are easily dismissed. But many of those who are attorney challenged say that the results are feel much more than two times the time. They report being much more emotionally challenged, socially challenged, and financially challenged.
In a longitudinal scientific study on the non-judicial side of these experiences called social and emotional voidology, category 2 is a difference of 4 pain points (2 social standing pain points and 2 emotional pain points). Which makes sense because it's a known adversarial system of attrition. Where the biggest budgets typically win. But unrepresented eye witnesses report time and time again that it feels like they never have a voice, they are never heard by decision-makers, and they are always impacted negatively every time they try to raise their hands and show evidence or proof of truth.
Imagine you're a student in an altercation on the playground or on social media and one side has a parent or MMA expert backing them up and the other side doesn't. The side without representation can be pained and never comforted more than the side with representation. They can be pained even when they express not wanted to fight. In other words, pressed and pressed but never authentically included. Straight cancelled for trying.
3. Dissolution cases where no family member is represented (categorized -1 v -1 - pronounced "minus one versus minus one):
4. Two family members are represented equally (categorized +1 v +1, or an "up & up" experience).
5. One family members is represented times two and the other party is represented (+2 v +1):
6. One family members is overly represented and other family members are not represented (+2 v -1):
7. Dissolution of marriage cases like that KMOV4 story that aired on May 4, 2021 where one parent is subject to psychological authors, two parties are represented, and the other party does not have a psychological voice (+3 v -1).
In the study of social and emotional voidology, category 7 is a difference of 8 pain points (4 social standing pain points and 4 emotional pain points). Which can also be thought of in financial terms. Category 8. One family member has two representatives, a second family member has no representative, and an attorney "Guardian Ad Litem (GAL)" (in Illinois, there are routine attorney "Mediator" interventions as well) is involved to report to the courts.
9. Other categories of representational differences included: +2 versus +2, +3 versus +1, +3 versus +2, and +3 versus +3 (the rarest and most expensive fact of all).
The invisible buried need
Even sadder, when it comes to uncovering the life flow of 17,700 Parent X's a year in the state of Missouri, and there's a total population of 6.2 million, then that's only 0.3% of the people. When poor and underserved people don't have enough democratic power to pull their own weight in county policymaking, hire a lawyer, or go to law school, then surely they wouldn't have access to a believable voice at the state, federal, or county board levels of government. A cry easily trumped be virtually anyone and everyone else.
Of course, these facts are not easily conveyed by conventional lawyers, nor is it an exhaustive list of conventional family law industry shortcomings. It's a well-known adversarial system with parental attritions until the end, and with psychological warfare as it's levers along the way. Who would dare speak up if they could?
It broke Olivia's heart to find out that she wasn't the only gifted child turned unrepresented, cancelled life. In Illinois, the statistics show that these seemingly canceled people are always the same way - industrially disadvantaged. They all show that outside of advertised "family" law court, we all experience the same chronic hopelessness - the same worn-out shoes.
A 2020 study in Central Illinois counties from St. Claire County to Christian County revealed that nearly 80% of truly innocent people were unrepresented or underrepresented (scientifically speaking). Even with their children on the line, their homes, finances, retirement accounts, pets, emotional well-being, social standings, and more. What's been said to be a monumentally deconstructive impact.
The Hidden Parent X Phenomenon is in multiple states. Life flows of these poor people proves that they either stay quit about it in public, or else risk rolling the dice in a "game" that's already rigged against them. Because when 0.3%-ers speak up along with the 99.7%-ers, then who gets silenced? Who doesn't get a seat at the table inside their own minds?
Parent X - What are you missing?
The letter x is commonly used at the end of a letter to symbolize a kiss. In algebra, the letter x is commonly used as a variable that students try and solve for. In hunting for hidden treasure, x "marks the spot." But in regards to social standing, access, and inclusion, Malcom X explained in his autobiography that x symbolized the true African family name that he would never know (Wikimedia Foundation, 2021). For parents subject to conventional "family" law versus law, parent x